What Are You Not at Peace With?
When you are not at peace with something, it means you are in resistance to it in some way.
You may have heard the saying, “What you resist, persists.” This does tend to be true.
So, if you are not at peace with a situation or person in your life, it is likely that the situation or person is not going to change much any time soon, especially if you continue to maintain your resistance toward it/them.
However, if you get to a place of peace (which could also be called “neutrality”), you may find that the situation resolves, and it may resolve very quickly. Even if it doesn’t resolve right away or ever, once you’re at peace with it, you don’t really care one way or another. When you are at peace with something, it is no longer and issue for you.
You are released from needing to be resistant to it in any way. You are free.
Getting to a place of peace often involves a shift of your mental perspective to one of peace and acceptance. It may also involve shifting some energy within in you, that is being triggered by the thing/person you are resisting.
Here’s an example:
Let’s say you are not at peace with the way some people drive. When you get behind those “certain” people, you immediately feel irritated, impatient and frustrated. Those feelings are pretty much opposite of the feeling of peace and neutrality.
Notice what your thoughts are about these people. It’s likely you are making them wrong, judging them or blaming them. This is your egoic mind talking. And, in this moment it has hijacked your thought process and is now running the show.
A quick way to shift into a better place is to find some thoughts of acceptance.
“I accept that I’m irritated and feeling impatient.”
“I accept that I’m judging this person in front of me.”
“It’s totally ok that I’m upset right now. I accept that I’m upset and I’m ok with that.”
Once you feel a bit lighter (you’ve shifted your state of being into an accepting state), then you can reach for some other thoughts that will help you to reframe the situation.
“I really have no basis on which to judge them, just because they drive differently than I do.”
“They have just as much of a right to the road as I do.”
“Maybe it’s good that I’m behind this person, it is forcing me to slow down, which is probably a good thing.”
“I’m going to bless this person and wish them well on their journey.”
The point of this exercise is to change the way you think about this driver, and even all future drivers that might trigger you in the same way. Find a new perspective that is more aligned with your higher self (instead of your egoic mind). It will be a perspective that is accepting, forgiving, friendly, non-reactive and peaceful.
Once you align with that new way of seeing other drivers, you’ll have to remember that and use it again, maybe several times when you are driving. Practicing this new mindset will build it into a habit. At some point you won’t have to consciously think it anymore, it will just become the way you naturally think.
The second part of the shift, if necessary, is to shift the energy within you that gets triggered anytime you find yourself behind some who drives in a way your ego doesn’t like. The CORE Technique is one of a few good tools I use. You can listen to a description and demo of this here.
This type of shift is what I do with clients all day long in my coaching business. It’s easier than you might think, especially when the energy side of the equation gets handled thoroughly. Feel free to post a comment or contact me if you’d like more information on how to make this kind of shift in your own life.
Whatever you do, know that everything that you are currently not at peace with can be changed… or rather, you can change yourself so that you are at peace going forward. It’s all shiftable, and it’s a very worthwhile thing to do.
