You could say that in many ways:

- We’re here to become a better person
- We’re here to live our life’s purpose or spiritual path
- Our soul is here to learn our lessons of this lifetime

In this earth-plane existence, we are in human form, however, we are much more than just a human being.

I often hear the saying, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

I think that’s a pretty good way to say it, but, we’re even more than spiritual beings. The spiritual aspect is just one dimensional level beyond what we are most used to experiencing as life here on earth.

I like the term “multi-dimensional being” because that’s the best way of describing what we actually are.

I am a physical body = 3rd dimensional level
I am a mind/ego with thoughts and emotions = 4th dimensional level
I am a spiritual being = 5th dimensional level

I am a multi-dimensional being = all the above and whatever we are beyond the 5th dimensional level that we’re not yet even aware of (I’ve heard there are at least 13 dimensions that exist)

So, like Shrek explained to Donkey, we’re made up of dimensional “layers” and there’s a lot more to us than most people realize…

Now back to the point about our biggest obstacle. As I said, we are here to grow and evolve as beings.

At first glance, most people have no problem with that statement, it sounds like a good thing.

But, in order to grow and evolve, we will have to change, and here’s where we meet a huge obstacle. Change is a big problem for most people because:

- Change requires you to step out of your comfort zone and into new territory, try new things and practice new ways of being.

- Many people believe they cannot change or that change is extremely hard so they give up on trying to make changes in their lives.

The main reason change is difficult is due to the part of your mind/ego that strongly resists change. It is your built in survival mechanism and it is operating under the assumption that any change is a potential threat to your survival. Therefore, change must be resisted and avoided at every turn!

This mind/ego survival mechanism is your biggest obstacle to you being able to make the changes in your life that you really want to make. It may allow you to make some small, incremental changes for a short period of time, however, unless it (the survival mechanism) has changed it’s viewpoint or your relationship to it has changed, most likely what you’ll experience is the “rubberband effect” and the snapping back to old ways of being.

Sound familiar?

We call this self-sabotage, but it is simply what commonly happens as a result of this built in survival mechanism just doing its job (trying to keep you alive in the way it thinks is best).

It’s not really that you are sabotaging yourself, it’s that there is one aspect of your being (on mind/ego level) that strongly resists change because it thinks it’s helping to keep you alive by doing so.

So, this is what most stands in the way of you having the life you really want.

Listen to this 2 minute recording and find the answer. Please share your thoughts on this below, do you agree with this assertion?

If you look at our human existence, it’s amazing to see how much of life revolves around taking care of the body in various ways. Look at the list below and add up how much it actually costs to have a body. You thought owning a BMW was expensive!

The body is our personal vehicle and sensory organism, which allows us to experience life here on Earth.

- We have to feed it
- Give it 8 hours or more of rest each day (like recharging your cell phone batteries)
- Keep it in a comfortable temperature zone (not too hot, not too cold)
- Wash it regularly (hopefully that’s important to you)
- Clothe it (and have a sufficient wardrobe)
- Transport it using other bigger vehicles (cars, planes, buses, etc.)
- Give it regular exercise (like walking your dog)
- When it gets sick, take it to the mechanic (doctor) to find out what’s wrong with it
- Put sunscreen and lotions on it to protect it from the sun, bugs, aging, etc.
- Find a sexual partner to satisfy it’s drive to procreate and make more bodies
- Have a job or some way of earning money to pay for all of this stuff!
- What else? Please post comments of things I’ve missed on this list

It’s pretty interesting to look at. Of course, having a body is the ticket into this world, this 3D physical reality experience. If we didn’t have a body, we’d be in spiritual form. That’s what we return to when the body dies. Life goes on, you just no longer have a body. That’s why ghosts don’t have wallets.

I’m thrilled to have a body, no matter what the cost. It is the most extraordinary piece of equipment any of us will probably ever get to experience (never say ever). I’m sure there are spirits lined up, just waiting for their chance to get another body and experience all the physical sensations of this ride.

Remember that the next time you are feeling down because something about your body isn’t quite the way you want it. Think about how lucky you are to have that body right now! Puts a whole different spin on things when you look at it that way.

You may have heard the saying, “What you resist, persists.” This does tend to be true.

So, if you are not at peace with a situation or person in your life, it is likely that the situation or person is not going to change much any time soon, especially if you continue to maintain your resistance toward it/them.

However, if you get to a place of peace (which could also be called “neutrality”), you may find that the situation resolves, and it may resolve very quickly. Even if it doesn’t resolve right away or ever, once you’re at peace with it, you don’t really care one way or another. When you are at peace with something, it is no longer and issue for you.

You are released from needing to be resistant to it in any way. You are free.

Getting to a place of peace often involves a shift of your mental perspective to one of peace and acceptance. It may also involve shifting some energy within in you, that is being triggered by the thing/person you are resisting.

Here’s an example:

Let’s say you are not at peace with the way some people drive. When you get behind those “certain” people, you immediately feel irritated, impatient and frustrated. Those feelings are pretty much opposite of the feeling of peace and neutrality.

Notice what your thoughts are about these people. It’s likely you are making them wrong, judging them or blaming them. This is your egoic mind talking. And, in this moment it has hijacked your thought process and is now running the show.

A quick way to shift into a better place is to find some thoughts of acceptance.

“I accept that I’m irritated and feeling impatient.”
“I accept that I’m judging this person in front of me.”
“It’s totally ok that I’m upset right now. I accept that I’m upset and I’m ok with that.”

Once you feel a bit lighter (you’ve shifted your state of being into an accepting state), then you can reach for some other thoughts that will help you to reframe the situation.

“I really have no basis on which to judge them, just because they drive differently than I do.”
“They have just as much of a right to the road as I do.”
“Maybe it’s good that I’m behind this person, it is forcing me to slow down, which is probably a good thing.”
“I’m going to bless this person and wish them well on their journey.”

The point of this exercise is to change the way you think about this driver, and even all future drivers that might trigger you in the same way. Find a new perspective that is more aligned with your higher self (instead of your egoic mind). It will be a perspective that is accepting, forgiving, friendly, non-reactive and peaceful.

Once you align with that new way of seeing other drivers, you’ll have to remember that and use it again, maybe several times when you are driving. Practicing this new mindset will build it into a habit. At some point you won’t have to consciously think it anymore, it will just become the way you naturally think.

The second part of the shift, if necessary, is to shift the energy within you that gets triggered anytime you find yourself behind some who drives in a way your ego doesn’t like. The CORE Technique is one of a few good tools I use. You can listen to a description and demo of this here.

This type of shift is what I do with clients all day long in my coaching business. It’s easier than you might think, especially when the energy side of the equation gets handled thoroughly. Feel free to post a comment or contact me if you’d like more information on how to make this kind of shift in your own life.

Whatever you do, know that everything that you are currently not at peace with can be changed… or rather, you can change yourself so that you are at peace going forward. It’s all shiftable, and it’s a very worthwhile thing to do.

Part of my resistance to this idea comes from another belief that I am holding. That is the belief that everything has already been created, it already exists. You could say God created it all in that one big bang, and things have been unfolding accordingly ever since.

So, if everything has already been created, then our job is not so much to create things as it is to “align” with things that have already been created, which may give the illusion that we are creating them.

If I get an idea for some new revolutionary invention that the world has never seen before, there is an extremely high probability that I’m not the only one with that idea. Usually bright new ideas get seeded to several people right around the same time. Whoever manages to turn the idea into a physical manifestation first, wins.

But, what if that invention has been around since the time when everything got created, but it just wasn’t accessible as an idea until now? Or humans just weren’t quite ready for it until right now? This may explain certain visionaries in history who seem to be thinking or inventing things way before their time. They’re somehow picking up on ideas way ahead of the pack, they’re tuning into things that are created on some other dimensional level and they’re sensing out into infinity to find their inspiration of what is coming. It’s like looking into the future and then bringing those ideas back to the present.

Ok, so maybe create isn’t the right word. However, do we have power to align with certain realities or to influence how reality is going to show up? On this, I feel strongly that we do.

Earlier today, we had a huge storm blow through. It came out of nowhere and suddenly there was intense wind, thunder, lighting and rain pouring down. Did I create or align with that storm? Not that I’m aware of. I didn’t wake up this morning and think, “Hmmm, today would be a great day for some sudden severe weather.” Perhaps on some deep unconscious level some part of me had something to do with that storm showing up, but there is no proof of that so let’s not go there right now.

Do I create or align with all of the incidents and events that show up in my life? Many self-help gurus and spiritual teachers say that I do but I’m not convinced. I guess it is totally possible that I’m creating all of it on some unconscious or higher self level. Anything is possible, but what good does it do me to believe this?

Another way of saying this is that we are each “responsible” for everything that shows up in our life. This I can agree with more easily. I do believe our “response-ability” has a lot to do with influencing how reality plays out.

If we define Reality to be “the Experience I am having in this moment,” then things start making even more sense. My reality is actually my Experience Of whatever is in front of me.

Did I create the storm this morning? Not that I am aware of.

Did I create my experience of the storm? Absolutely, yes! I was 100% consciously aware and in control of how I experienced the storm.

Here is what I mean by that…

I was actually on the phone with a client when it hit, and when it began to get my attention (noticing how things were blowing around outside) I commented to the person on the phone. I mentioned how the trees were bending and how it looked pretty intense. My client asked if we should end the call and I said no, it will pass soon. And, worst case scenario, if a tornado suddenly blows in, I’m already in the basement so I don’t have far to go to be in the safest place in the house (my office is in the basement but looks out on the backyard). I actually said, “I’m at peace with the idea of my house being destroyed, so I’m not worried about any of this.” I knew on a deep level that this was just a storm and not something I needed to take any action around.

Then the power went out for a couple seconds and we were disconnected.

So, I called her right back and we continued our session until the power went out briefly again a couple minutes later. All the while the storm is raging outside my window. I called her back again. After about 10 minutes things had calmed down considerably and we finished up our time with no further interruptions.

I was very aware of how I felt during all of this. There was a calm, relaxed neutral feeling present. There was no concern or frustration or anything resistant or negative going on. I’ve learned how to experience life from this place and it makes a huge difference in how my Reality shows up.

In that sense I am creating my Reality, by responding to whatever is present in a way that is peaceful and non-resistant. In addition, as I do this more and more, it really seems that I have fewer and fewer disruptive events in my life. The peace and tranquility has profoundly pervaded my entire life now for quite a long time. Upsets are extremely rare.

So, as you go about your day, take control of the one aspect of your being that you can have full control over. Choose how you will think and feel in response to whatever is happening in the moment. You’re likely going to run into some deep patterns that will try to pull you into reactivity and resistance. But, these can be shifted. Reach for a feeling of peace, joy, ease and freedom and watch your whole reality take a turn for the better.

Our egoic mind loves to grab onto this idea and then use it against us every chance it gets. The idea that we “should” be perfect perpetuates feelings and thoughts of “I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, pretty enough, responsible enough, there is something wrong with me,” and so on.

The truth is, while you may achieve perfection in moments of your life, you will not be able to sustain that for very long. If you can be ok with that and not have that mean anything negative about yourself, then that’s fine. But, I find that most people can’t avoid getting caught up in having their day to day imperfections be seen as evidence of their unconscious belief that they are flawed or lacking in some profound way. This leads to other negative and unhealthy thought patterns and emotions. It will put you into a resistant mind/emotional state and that is always counter-productive.

So, here’s my suggestion. Give up trying to be perfect at everything. Focus instead on being the best you can be in the moment. And, even that can get tiring after awhile, so also give yourself permission to not have to always go for even that level of accomplishment. Sometimes “just good enough” is the bar to shoot for.

Look at whatever task you are engaged in and ask yourself, “On a scale of 1 to 10 (0 = barely acceptable, 10 = perfection), what level is sufficient for me for this task?” Notice any resistance you might have to picking a number below 10. Intentionally go for a 6 on certain things you do, just to feel what it’s like to not have to be so darn perfect all the time.

This will free up a lot of energy for you because you’ll stop “needing” to invest so much time and energy into every little thing you do in order to do it perfectly. You can concentrate on the areas that are most important and that might need to have a higher rating, like things related to your work or business.

It’s very possible that your ego is hooked into being Perfect as a way to get a sense of who it is. So, you may encounter resistance on the ego level to letting go of striving for perfection. But, here’s the thing, it’s not healthy to get the sense of who you are from things outside of yourself. Most people do that (even though it’s not a very healthy thing to do) and it’s another area I spend a lot of time working on in sessions.

Ego can get it’s sense of identify from your profession, various personality traits you have, your checking account balance, how smart or pretty you are, etc. All of this feels pretty good when that aspect of your life is going well, but you’re set up for the rollercoaster ride should anything happen to that aspect of your experience. Anything your ego is heavily identified with can potentially “crash you on the rocks” if/when that aspect of your life takes a dive. It can also become an area where your ego gets to beat you up every time you fall a little short of the mark.

The truth is, you are perfect, whole and complete just as you are, no matter what challenges, problems or issues you have in your life. On the deepest level of your being you’re perfect, whole and complete. Get your sense of yourself from that place (it’s internal, not external) and you’ll find you can be much more relaxed and happy in your life even when things aren’t perfect.

The dialogue clips are taken from a very long conversation Gayle and I had about a month ago.

This concept and the way it’s discussed here is definitely provocative! It can be used as a working paradigm to allow yourself to shift outcomes in your life. I’ve been deepening my understanding of how to apply this idea and noticing the results that show up.

You don’t have to necessarily think this is the absolute nature of reality or take it literally to be true, but rather just use it as a way to access fast and dramatic change in your life by entertaining the notion that there are all of these possible realities co-existing simultaneously.

Listening back to this, I notice that we don’t talk much at all about the spiritual realm and how it might be interacting in all of this. At the end of the video, there is some discussion about miracles and how the apparent sudden shifting to a dramatically different reality can seem to be miraculous. It may be that the spiritual realm helps us to make those kinds of parallel reality shifts. It may also be that we can learn how to do it more consciously as well.

I hope you find this entertaining and thought-provoking. Tell me what you think using the FB comments section below!

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I love this concept of parallel realities. It gives me a huge amount of freedom to change aspects of my reality because it simply becomes a question of “how do I line up with that reality which already exists.”

This is just a taste of this concept. There is much more available to explore if you like this type of information.

That led me to Amazon to check out his books, and then to Youtube to hear him speak on the topics he often discusses. Pretty interesting, definitely in sync with the path I’m on in my own life. I look forward to exploring some other videos of his. He is a teacher/student of A Course in Miracles, which is something I’ve heard a lot about but never actually studied firsthand.

More info on him at www.GaryRenard.com

This next video is part 2 of a 7 part series you can watch on Youtube.